Today`s momfessional comes from guest blogger MaeKellan. She is a woman after my own heart. For anyone who has older kids who have grown out of naptime, you’ll understand…
Somewhere along the way my children have grown up and grown out of having rests during the day. And the thought of entertaining my children from the moment of waking until bedtime is just not my idea of fun. Mommy needs some peace and quiet throughout her day to stay sane! So, I decided that every day they need to occupy themselves without any help from me for at least an hour after lunch.
I set the alarm, send them outside or to their rooms, shut all doors and tell them not to disturb me (unless there is a lot of blood!), for that hour. If they happen to bother me during “mommy rest time” then I add time to the alarm. Sometimes I have a nap, do some sewing or eat my lunch in peace.
It’s just nice to have some time alone, not having to wipe somebody’s bottom or “wiggle, but don’t pull!” a loose tooth for the umpteenth time that day. Time to get away from the constant chattering and the questions, oh how I hate questions! If they ask me questions during mommy rest time I am likely to growl and physically put them in bed to sleep. As far as I’m concerned, if I can hear them or see them out the window then they are safe. And usually, if I can’t hear or see them, they have (fingers crossed) just fallen asleep in a cupboard somewhere!
I do the same thing with my 6-year-old. When my toddler naps, I ask Gabriel play quietly in his room for an hour. Then, without any guilt whatsoever, I go and take a nap. Am I am bad mom? Not at all. I mean, kids need alone time too…it helps them hone their creative side, and learn to play independently. At least that is what I tell myself as I crawl under my comfy duvet for my mid-afternoon snooze.
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